Guest post by Linda Moore

The Virus Scare: Self Care in Stressful Times

THE BIG QUESTION….How do I take care of myself, my family, friends, colleagues –in such a frightening, stressful time? There, unfortunately is no simple straightforward answer to that question, but there are lots of guidelines and they are important…essential!

FIRST:

Pay attention to what qualified and experienced physicians and long time government executives are providing as guidelines. Our national political sources appear to have a “natural tendency” to be self protective and cautious about digging in and getting things done, so the people in your own community, your governor, mayor,  and representatives  for city and state wide information; your physician or perhaps an area urgent care center; and your own inner circle of informed individuals are the most reliable.

The BASICS:

  1. STAY in if you can; practice physical distancing (social distancing feels to many that it limits talking and staying emotionally connected) but the PHYSICAL DISTANCE of 6 feet is important to be practiced. I acknowledge that gets challenging as you encounter people in the aisle of the grocery or drug store…none the less it’s extremely important. I say “when/where you can” because many of you are still going to work. If so, keep the physical distancing in the foreground of your consciousness. It’s urgent!
  2. WASH your hands as often as you can and practice the most intentional  form of healthy physical hygiene as you can
  3. Keep all surfaces in bathrooms and kitchens (both at home and at work) wiped down regularly and often. Don’t forget your phone and any other items you touch regularly!
  4. If you experience symptoms, take your temperature. If you have even a slight temperature isolate yourself even more than you are already doing.
  5. Call a doctor vs going into an office or emergency room unless your symptoms are severe. And talk to a physician or health care worker for advice on the best course of action.

On the emotional level, while self isolating and/or practicing physical distancing, consider these ideas.

People who are EXTROVERTS:

— outgoing and  social, love interaction with others, including all levels of social events –are going to struggle far more with the demands of self distancing and/or self isolating. Because? Extroverts derive energy through interaction with others. They recharge in everything from conversations to parties and meetings and activities that engage them verbally and intellectually and emotionally.  NOT BEING ABLE TO DO THESE THINGS becomes draining. It’s like pulling the plug out of the wall socket. There’s no electricity flowing and charging the individual. AND because approximately 75% of the population is made up of Extroverts, lots and lots of people are struggling with the request for social distancing and self isolating.

This is important primarily to keep you from thinking there’s something seriously wrong with you…For Extroverts, anxiety, agitation, frustration, and anger would not be uncommon after long periods of time.

People who are INTROVERTS:

 –are almost exactly the opposite, in that they thrive and build energy with alone time — time quite separate from other people — or with just one or two or three others. Consequently they will feel more able to adapt to the requirements we are facing and some will find the enforced alone time much more manageable.

People who are AMBIVERTS:

–fall somewhere in the middle of these two descriptions …consequently they may experience themselves as frustrated but managing. They might prefer being with a group of friends but will more easily adapt to needing to stay in than an extrovert.

TWO basic points:

First, don’t think of your reactions to what’s happening as “crazy” or ask “What’s wrong with me?” We are all different and respecting these differences, especially in your own family (also with colleagues) becomes truly important. ASK your partner/spouse and your kids this question. What makes you feel more energized? Having some quiet time alone or interacting with people/friends? Then talk about the differences that emerge. And make decisions about how to manage differing needs.

Finally, focus ON YOUR THOUGHTS. IN OTHER WORDS, what is swirling around in your head? We all engage in “thought distortions”….these are sentences that are running through the foreground of your mind that you may not “hear” clearly but are nonetheless impacting feelings and behavior.  A thought distortion just means you have sentences in your head that make an already challenging situation feel like a disaster.

For example, basic thought: I don’t like needing to self-isolate or practice social/physical distancing. The DISTORTION: It’s AWFUL, and HORRIBLE and I CAN’T STAND IT!  The distortion is what is likely going to make you feel extremely stressed, and even a “little crazy.” The task is to catch the distorted thinking, stop it, and imagine you can delete the distortion because it’s NOT THE TRUTH. The truth is real enough: “I don’t like this!” Most thoughts that go beyond that basic statement are likely to be distortions and will make your anxious and depressed feelings far more difficult. The bottom line is to take your situation seriously and avoid making it worse with distorted thinking.

In addition to paying attention to your thoughts try these things:  Get regular exercise, follow some form of relaxation or meditation (there are numerous apps for this); eat as much healthy food as you can; try to get good solid sleep. Write about two things: First, list the things you are grateful for; second identify the specific stresses you feel. Create a schedule you can stick with during the day, and reach out to others if you are balancing the needs of several children who are home from school. Ask family and friends and neighbors for some assistance when you need it. And check out on line resources.  My website has a wealth of blogs which address all of the above.  DrLindaLMoore.com

Finally if you need to talk to someone please give yourself permission to reach out to a professional. I’m working with clients via phone vs in my office, so I’m more available to answer calls. If you want to ask a basic question, need help identifying psychological services in your community, check my website and email me. Or leave a message on my answering service. 816-444-2242. And hang in there …you can do this!


Linda Moore, EdD, is a licensed psychologist practicing in Kansas City, Missouri. She is President of Linda L. Moore and Associates, which offers individual and group therapy, executive coaching, management consulting, and presentations for organizations and associations around the country.

Guest post by Lois Wilkins

The Wisdom Found in Chaos

What is the meaning to be found in the midst of this current chaos?

For the answers and, yes, there are many answers to such a question, let’s take some guidance from the ancients—the Alchemists and the Olympian Deities. Chaos is from where all life originated and continues to be a part of our everydayness as seen here in this simple example. For our purposes let us look at a seed. When a seed in planted in the earth, the prima materia, it enters into chaos. By this we mean, chaos as the unordered energy of all potential. The seed must die in its seed form and, by letting go of its life as a seed, it surrenders to the new life of a plant with roots, stem, and leaves. Eventually, the plant will produce a blossom which ultimately produces another seed. In this way, the cycle of life-death-life evolves. This example can be applied to the Axiom of Maria Prophetiessa: From the one (seed) comes the two (roots and foliage) and from the two comes the three (the container of the earth with catalytic influences of air, wind, sun, and water); and from the fourth comes a (new plant) comes the one (another new seed).

How does this apply to us in this time of crisis?

As chaos embodies all potential, we are able to recognize its importance in the process of paradigm changes. Some of the attributes we can mine from chaos are both its sin-concealing and wisdom-producing attributes, just to mention the two most relevant in our times.

The purpose of chaos for us is, in part, to learn the discipline of discernment, which in essential for mining deep into the chaos in search of the order that can emerge from it.

We have all wondered and laughed at the obsession with buying toilet paper out of the fear of not having what we consider essential, forgetting that many generations of people have existed before without toilet paper. Knowing the influence of the chakra energy systems, we recognize the location of the first chakra, the energy center for survival, life-force energy, which is located at the base of the spine, (also the location of the anus. So our toilet paper issues may not be such a strange obsession after all.

During this forced time for self-reflection, we hope to enter into a place of discernment of what is essential and unique to each one of us. Unfortunately, this opportunity has, in many lives, been usurped by the mania of acquiring more and more knowledge and ignoring or defending against Wisdom. As we evolve in consciousness the pursuit of Wisdom becomes paramount over the accumulation of mass amounts of knowledge. Wisdom allows and directs us toward the divine within us, promoting the experiences of co-creation. Knowledge, for the mere sake of knowing, encourages our separation from the divine.

This is a time of much needed changes on our planet and within ourselves. We are all in an agonizing labor as we give birth to what will be a new world. How timely that we can use this much needed freeze-frame to embrace some reflections on what is essential. The inflation of the mania, that we know was being lived out throughout the world, must now give way to the deflation forced upon us by this freeze-frame, providing space for mining the meanings for each of us.

So, this time of a freeze-frame, in essence a world-wide time out if we allow, promotes an opportunity for the self-reflection necessary to unplug from the numerous enmeshments found to our unconscious submission to external influences. Most importantly, this time out provides the opportunity to discover both the enmeshment we’ve been involved in and what is unique about our own life.

Many are obsessed with the desire to return to how things were just a fews weeks ago. Unless we each realize that a return to what was in the past is a regressive move, we are destined to continue living out polarizations such as powerless/ powerful, have/have not, and dominion/surrender. Remember what happened in the Bible to Lot’s wife when she did not follow the command to not look back? She was immobilized, turned into a pillar of salt. Our task is to look forward, being grounded in the present, not to look back.

Greek mythology instructs us through the twelve Deities found on Mount Olympus with the archetypal energies found in each of them:

Hera—Family,Women, childbirth, and Marriage;
Hestia—Home, Hearth, and the State;
Zeus—Sky, Lightening, Thunder, Order, and Justice;
Poseidon—Sea, Storms, Earthquakes, and Horses;
Demeter—Harvest, Agriculture, Fertility, and Sacred Law;
Aphrodite—Love, Beauty, and Sexuality;
Hephaestus—Fire, Metal Working, Stone Masonry, Forges, the Art of Sculpture, Technology, and Blacksmiths;
Ares—War;
Athena—Wisdom, Handicrafts, and War;
Artemis—The Moon, chastity, Wild Animals, the Hunt, and the Wilderness;
Apollo—Sun, Light, Oracles, Knowledge, Healing, Diseases, Music Poetry, Songs, Dance, Archery, Herds and Flocs, and Protector of Young;
Hermes—Boundaries, Roads and Travelers, Commerce, Thieves, Athletes, Shepherds, Psychopomp, and Divine Messenger.

Some have said that archetypes are the organs of the psyche, both the universal and the collective psyche. If so, then it is the function of evolving consciousness to bring the influence of archetypes into the everyday awareness of individuals. Only in this manner can we move into relationship with these archetypal energies and move away from being possessed by them. Extreme archetypal possession in individuals can be seen in psychotic behaviors, acting out in the realm of non-consensual realities. On the global scale, certainly in terms of destructive climate change to our planet, this acting out has produced great harm.

Let’s explore the tasks needed to be constructive both globally and individually in these tumultuous times:

  1. Let us be open to the chaos, moving away from the denial that has been most dominant in our recent history.
  2. Search out where polarizations exist, both globally and in ourselves.
  3. Identify where these polarizations have failed to be influenced by the catalytic forces, and thus, bringing about the purification (premature loss of containment) that we are now living.
  4. Bring conscious Wisdom, not mere knowledge, into our lives with the intention of living a more holistic life on a multifaceted planet that we can be in creation with, rather than the paradigm of domination over nature.

Pandora, the gift of the feminine given to humanity by Zeus due to his anger with Prometheus, could not conceal all the sufferings that would come into the lives of humanity. But, she did reserve the attribute of Hope. Now, as in no other time in our history is this attribute of Hope more important. Not whimsical surrender to blind faith, but Hope that emerges from the Wisdom found in each individual’s role in creating the new world—a world of emerging harmony and collaboration— perhaps the astrological Age of Aquarius.


Lois Wilkins, PhD APRN, is a Theorist, Depth Psychotherapist, Researcher, Consultant, and Owner of the Eagle’s Nest Holistic Mental Health, Inc., with offices in Lawrence and DeSoto, Kansas. She has published numerous articles and poetry. In addition to her private practice, she teaches classes, including but not limited to, Fairy Tales and Dreams and Jungian Analytical/Depth Psychology.

Guest post by Lisa Whitlow

Corona Virus Reflection

I have been asked to write some words about this strange and frightening time dictated by the corona virus.  What can I say that is not being said on social media and on the evening news?  Wash your hands.  Practice “social distancing.”  Hold your loved ones close.  Keep a regular routine.  But a few recommendations do come to mind:

Allow yourself to grieve.  This is a planetary crisis.  People are suffering and people are dying.  Our blue earth is struggling to breathe, to survive.  Do not pretend that everything is okay – it isn’t.  If we pretend, if we deny, if we avoid, the pain embeds itself in our bodies and darkens our souls.  Let yourself cry, let yourself rage – allow yourself to feel what you feel.  Light a votive candle for those who are suffering.  And then, go outdoors for a walk; cook a good meal; sing your favorite songs; connect with a loved one.

Find creative outlets.  Keep a journal, do some art (“artistic ability” not required), play with clay, write a poem, write a song, read your favorite literature out loud.

Celebrate. (But wait, didn’t I just recommend grieving?)  We also need to find ways to celebrate what is good and beautiful in our world and in our lives.  Have a “Zoom” cocktail hour or dinner with friends, set a festive table for your family and make your favorite foods, laugh and be silly together.  Glory in the coming green of spring.

Reach out.  Try to find someone who needs you – such as an elderly person who is isolated during this time – and do what you can.

It is strange to be considering our own mortality.  Perhaps because I am in that “vulnerable category,” I have been doing some reflecting.  Oddly enough, what I have found is that I am “good to go.”  This is not what I want, of course.  But I have been considering my life.  I have had my share of sadness and loss, but I have had such joy!  I have had music, and laughter; I have rejoiced in the great round of the seasons; I have delighted in a baby’s first laugh, the warmth of a lover’s embrace, the gifts of family … the list of great blessings is endless.  I am filled at times with a sweet and almost unbearable joy.  And this gratitude is not related to my accomplishments – all the things that at one time I thought were so essential are, in the words of Thomas Aquinas, “straw.”

One final suggestion: on a clear night, go out and look at the stars.  If you can, drive out beyond the city lights.  You may find, (in the words of one of my favorite pieces of music, “Sure on this Shining Night”), that you may “weep for wonder!”


Lisa Whitlow, M.A., D.Min., has maintained a private practice for 30 years as a depth-oriented counselor and spiritual mentor.  Dr. Whitlow is a frequent speaker for the Friends of Jung, and has led retreats and workshops in Kansas City, Texas, Idaho, Arizona, Oklahoma, and New Mexico.

Guest post by Marty Dybicz

Together

May we all stay deeply centered and be kind and creative in these challenging times.

Deeply centered. Aware, in the very center of our being. Feeling and flowing from there. The all-inclusive Self. The place of oneness, wholeness, life, love, peace, now.

Staying deeply centered. Abiding in Self. Resting there. Trusting. Returning to that Spacious Heart each time we notice the contracting, the small self rising, fearing, thinking, attempting to control this unspeakably vast, wild, mysterious process.

Returning to breath, to whole bodily feeling, to our senses. Opening again, beyond ego. Letting separateness dissolve. Leaving thoughts and fearful fantasies behind.

Kind. Open-hearted. Compassionate. Toward others, toward self. Soft and caring and strong. Showing this. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, together.

Creative. New. Never before. Letting Self lead the way. Letting images turn into action. Integrating. Innovating. Letting the energy flow freely, express itself naturally, now.

Challenging times. In need of light and love and courage, now. Calling forth Self, our depth, wholeness, truth, best.

May we all stay deeply centered and be kind and creative in these challenging times.

We can do this, together.


Marty Dybicz is a licensed psychologist in private practice and a long-standing participant in the Friends of Jung.

April program has been cancelled

Due to the current CoVid-19/Coronavirus situation in Kansas City, our April program has been canceled and will be rescheduled for a later date. We will make an announcement about our May programs in a few weeks as we see how the situation develops.

Stay safe and well.

A special offer from the C. G. Jung Institute of San Francisco

Jung Journal: Culture & Psyche, an internationally recognized quarterly publication of the C. G. Jung Institute of San Francisco, is offering friends of our organization a 25% discount on new subscriptions. The offer ends March 31, 2020.

Jung Journal explores the intersection of Jungian psychology with contemporary culture, politics, and arts. To learn about the journal and about this offer, click http://sfjung.org/jungjournal

Brenda Murrow: A Jungian Discussion on Suicide

From antiquity, humans have faced the phenomena of suicide. Throughout history, all the way back to the Romans and Greeks, through the Renaissance, the Enlightenment, and up to current age, social beliefs have varied on suicide.  This phenomena then, by definition, must have archetypal roots. 

In this discussion, Jung’s work on death and suicide will be explored. Passive thoughts about death are actually a normal part of adolescence.  Yet, all rates of suicide are on the rise nationally.  The ways in which Jung’s thoughts might apply to these trying times will also be considered.
Friday, November 15, 2019
7:00pm
Roeland Park Community Center

Brenda Murrow, PhD, is a licensed psychologist practicing at her office in Waterville, KS, and also at the Hope and Healing Academy in Topeka, KS, which provides equine-assisted therapy.

Her clinical training experiences span an array of environments, and include a focus on children’s treatment with play therapy and psychodynamic interventions for emotional disturbances.  Brenda is a graduate of the Clinical Psychology doctoral program at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Carpinteria, CA. Her dissertation was a research study that explored the relationships between a therapy dog and child survivors of domestic violence, physical, and sexual abuse.

Welcome to the 2019/2020 Season!

We are putting together the full line-up for this season and have our first program scheduled: a book launch event with local author Bob Sandford. The program will be next month, October 11, at the Roeland Park Community Center. Click here for all the details.

Gary V. Hartman Memorial Lecture

 

Gary V Hartman
January 5, 1947 – May 23, 2017

 

A long time I have lived with you
And now we must be going
Separately to be together.
Perhaps I shall be the wind
To blur your smooth waters
So that you do not see your face too much.
Perhaps I shall be the star
To guide your uncertain wings
So that you have direction in the night.
Perhaps I shall be the fire
To separate your thoughts
So that you do not give up.
Perhaps I shall be the rain
To open up the earth
So that your seed may fall.
Perhaps I shall be the snow
To let your blossoms sleep
So that you may bloom in spring.
Perhaps I shall be the stream
To play a song on the rock
So that you are not alone.
Perhaps I shall be a new mountain
So that you always have a home.

Wood, Nancy.  Many Winters: Prose and Poetry of the Pueblos. Santa Fe: William Gannon. 1984.  p.71.

 

In 1979, Gary V. Hartman presented a lecture on fairy tales to a group of people in Kansas City.  This group would continue on to become the Kansas City Fiends of Jung and Gary would continue his close association with them as a teacher, on many levels, until his passing. In tribute to the tremendous devotion he showed to the Kansas City Friends of Jung and to the Jungian community at large there will be an annual Gary V. Hartman Memorial Lecture beginning with the 2017-18 program year.  Gary’s support through the years will be greatly missed and we are pleased to have the opportunity to honor his legacy.  If you would like to give to this annual memorial lecture in honor of Gary, you may either mail a check to the Kansas City Friends of Jung at PO Box 32795, Kansas City, Missouri, 64171 or use the link to PayPal below.

 

Gary V. Hartman, 1947 – 2017

In Memory Of

Gary V. Hartman

1947 – 2017

Gary was born on January 5, 1947, in Wichita, Kansas, the eldest child of Gerald Vincent Hartman, a medical missionary doctor, and Gertie Magdalene Hartman.  He grew up on the mission field in the Philippines and India.  Gary graduated from Woodstock School in Uttarakhand, India, in 1964.  He received a BA degree from Kansas State University in 1969, an MA degree in Modern Language Arts from KSU in 1971, and graduated as a diplomate from the C.G. Jung Institute in Zurich, Switzerland, in 1978.  Gary began his analytic practice at the Educational Center in St. Louis in 1979.  He was the analyst founder in 1987 for the Kansas City Friends of Jung which remains a resource for Jungian and post-Jungian studies in the Kansas City community.  His articles and translations have appeared in numerous analytical journals including Spring, Quadrant, and on the C.G. Jung Homepage.  At the time of his death, he was counseling analysands and providing Jungian study groups in Fayetteville, Arkansas, St. Louis and Kansas City, Missouri, and DeSoto and Lawrence, Kansas. In addition to his professional pursuits, he was an award-winning Master Gardener and volunteer for the water lily gardens at both the St. Louis, Missouri, Botanical Gardens and Powell Gardens.  Gary is survived by his two children, Emily Green of Columbia, Missouri, and Adrian Hartman of St. Louis, Missouri, his three grandchildren, Lily and Laurel Green and Adelaide Hartman, his brother Greg Hartman of Olathe, Kansas, and his sister Glenda Poliner of San Diego, California.  Gary’s life will be celebrated in a memorial service at the Powell Gardens Chapel on Sunday, June 4th at 1:30 PM.  In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Kansas City Friends of Jung, Powell Gardens, or the Missouri Botanical Gardens.